Thursday, November 20, 2008

The past, present or future:

Our past kind of decided our present, just like our present is going to determine the future. This sounds like a silly statement to make. But I havent copied this from somewhere for once. But I am sure somebody might have something similar like this written before.

Emerson once put it, "What you are shouts so loudly in my ears that I cannot hear what you say." There cant have been a more truer statement than this. Very often I have felt this especially while talking to someone close.

While conversing with this person there were so many thoughts coming to my head that I didnt pay attention to the conversation and as usual we landed up squabbling.

Actions bother him , words bother him , small small or trivial things are irking him, how can we continue this relationship? As it is, it was a forced one. I havent slept for a record 3 nights in a row thanks to him.

Sunday, November 16, 2008

What are you reading these days

Found this interesting article in the Times of India. : I dont know why this has been categorized under Men and Ideas, dont women also read?? Anyways I completely agree with Gurcharan Das and pray that a library like this would be spring up in Dubai. Its bad enough to leave for work at 5.15 am in the morning and to be in horrendous traffic for 2 hours. So why not make use of the time constructively.

Monday, November 10, 2008

Interesting thought on marriage

A colleague of mine started off an interesting debate today. Is it possible to compromise on something like marriage and still be happy? An interesting person I met during my tenure at my 1st job, said that he married for the sake of his parents. Now the parents are happy, but he isnt. He wants out but they dont allow him to. Is there an end to his misery.

Arent most of us in India sailing in the same boat. We have this concept of arranged marriage.We have a 101 things to clear beside just liking the guy or girl. Religion, status, caste, money, position and finally the 'horrorscope' which anyway can never predict the doom of a marriage all play a key role. So how can one get into an arranged marriage without a compromise? Oldies just say it will work fine. How will it work fine? When will it work fine, after either one is dead? Hmm I still have a long way to go in figuring out the ways life works!!!

A thousand splendid suns - Khalid Hosseini

I finished reading this book about a month back. Due to general laziness I didn’t write the heartfelt review that I badly wanted to write at that time. But this is one of the books that had a great impact on me. I read it in a single sitting on the 7 hours flight from London to Dubai with only interruptions for having food in between. I swear this is the second time (First was Tuesday’s with Morrie by Mitch Albom) I am crying after reading a book. What struck me the most was the helplessness of people? Mainly women suffering from aftermath of mindless wars which are the result of the “so called” mind games of politicians worldwide. The story is based in Afghanistan. It is difficult not to cry for the character that is Mariam. We feel angry when she is 15 and forcefully married to a 47 year old. She didn’t have a legitimate father. She never had a proper education. She was beaten up by this useless husband. She was forced look after his second wife and kids. In the end she is executed by stoning. How many people are there like this in Afghanistan? What do such people have to look forward to in a life like this? Is there anything to smile about with such a life? And finally what did I get by reading such a disturbing story? Well the answer to the last is that I felt grateful to God for my life. Even though it is in turmoil right now, it is nothing when compared to women in nations like Afghanistan

In my heart I was only thankful to God that I was brought up in India. And no matter what problems I have faced so far. It will never be of such intensity. At least my childhood was never this disturbing. Long live India, Long Live the city of Chennai.

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Emerson quotes

To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affecion of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, to leave the world a better place whether by a child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition, to know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived - this is to have succeeded.

Monday, November 3, 2008

Why we choose careers that dont make us happy - Continuation.

Consequent to my marriage 2 years ago , I moved to Dubai in the United Arab Emirates. Now here I had to face a different environment altogether. Here none of the big conglomerates take you directly on their payrolls in their Information Technology department. They take you on as a software consultant. Now unlike western countries where consultants are paid more than the regular staff, here in Dubai a consultant is quite the straight opposite.You have to toil on an average of 3 years to get onto the direct payrolls of any company here and even then you are not guaranteed the post of a Senior Software Engineer, which is normally given to a person with 3 years experience in India. Most probably you will be placed on par with the fresh engineering college graduates from BITS Pilani Dubai (basically children of filthy rich gulf expats) and the like.All the perks of a permanent job including accomodation and bonus eludes you and you will be made to wonder why you ever came here in the 1st place. And as if all this werent enough most of the expatriates (me included) live in a place called Sharjah which is just about 10kms from Dubai but takes about 2-3 hours to reach one way!!Why do we stay here? Because Dubai is ill-affordable to Consultants like us. So a bad job coupled with terrible transportation killed the remaining little interest that I already had in working in an IT company in Dubai. So why am I stil here, to kill time, make money and get as de-motivated as possible.I dont know whether I had any aim in my career at all.Why not just call this all off and quit?That definitely is better thing to do............(To be concluded)