Friday, September 28, 2007

Friends - Another good forward!

  • In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.
  • In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls.
  • In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.
  • In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.
  • In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nick or Smelly Susan.
  • In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.
  • In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.
  • In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had.
  • In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.
  • In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.
  • In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.
  • In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.
  • In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get into that college/university, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go...
  • At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.
  • The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for university and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.
  • Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!

Good Movies in the past.

One of the best blogs I have seen in recent times is this: from nariyal chutney on Malayalam films of the nineties. Please do take time off to ponder on this topic. It does make for good reading and pondering. Mr.Nariyal Chutney hats off to you for such a good blog. And hope you continue to write more like this.

Tuesday, September 4, 2007

For One More Day - Mitch Albom - A must read.

"Mitch Albom mesmerized readers around the world with his number one New York Times bestsellers, The Five People You Meet in Heaven and Tuesdays with Morrie. Now he returns with a beautiful, haunting novel about the family we love and the chances we miss.
For One More Day is the story of a mother and a son, and a relationship that covers a lifetime and beyond. It explores the question: What would you do if you could spend one more day with a lost loved one?

As a child, Charley “Chick” Benetto was told by his father, “You can be a mama’s boy or a daddy’s boy, but you can’t be both.” So he chooses his father, only to see the man disappear when Charley is on the verge of adolescence.

Decades later, Charley is a broken man. His life has been crumbled by alcohol and regret. He loses his job. He leaves his family. He hits bottom after discovering his only daughter has shut him out of her wedding. And he decides to take his own life.

He makes a midnight ride to his small hometown, with plans to do himself in. But upon failing even to do that, he staggers back to his old house, only to make an astonishing discovery. His mother -- who died eight years earlier -- is still living there, and welcomes him home as if nothing ever happened."

I am sure the above paragraphs could get a person interested enough and compel him/her to read this book. And that's precisely what I did when I saw this book with a friend of mine. I could hardly wait till she finished reading and passed on the book to me. And true to what was written on the cover the story was engrossing enough, that I found it difficult to put it down.
I have often felt what it would be like to go back to your past and modify it.Of course it is impossible, but what if we got a magic wand that could help us do it. A la Harry Potter! He was able to view a day in his life when his parents were still alive.(I am sorry if folks reading this do not know of Harry Potter!).But ya how would it be? Like Robert Frost says:-

"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. "

I often wonder , what if I had taken the other road(made another choice). This book makes you reminisicice , look back with its subtle nuances. Most people can identify with this author.

But of course,if you are not a person who reads such sentimental stuff, better give it a miss. This is only meant for those who like to look back on life every once in a while.

Heights of Joblessness

As usual I have reached office by 8.00 a.m. Again I don't have any work to do. How on earth should I while away time till 4.00 p.m.? When you sit for 3 whole days in a row with nothing particular to do, you only get negative thoughts in your head. There is a saying; an idle mind is a devil's workshop. I am determined not to make my mind a devil's workshop so I have decided to do what I know best to do, i.e., write! In a way it's good that they have invented the concept of blogs. You can take out your anger on nobody in particular without the risk of creating a fracas. So this time I am writing 3 best tips on how to while away time when you are idle, without doing something malicious like gossiping.

First of all, (this part applies to all those who have internet connection in their office) browse through all the newspaper websites. Since I am Indian and residing in the gulf, I go through the following sites: and . You can spend about half an hour reading each of these. Next there is . Here you get all kinds of articles ranging from stupid questions to really knowledgeable articles on any topic under the sun. Another option is to try and find some good blog sites. You will surprised to know there are quite a lot of people in this world who are just as jobless as you are , and some of them are quite creative and write pretty well. And the best part is you can remain anonymous when you go through their sites or when you reply to them.

If you do not have an internet connection, now this is a really sorry situation. What you can do best in such situations, save all the forwarded messages that you can get from friends (most people get a lot of them these days) from time to time. When you are idle read them all! This would be a good time for introspection, and some factors of your life could improve who knows! Another way is to get some downloaded e-books (pdfs) and read them. Surely somebody who has the internet connection can download and give them to you.

Last but not the least, try to find somebody as idle as you are and go for a break. There is nothing quite like an intellectual conversation especially when you are down in the dumps and you feel that you are totally useless. You might learn something from these conversations. It could be anything starting from your work to diverse cultural backgrounds to sports and politics (stay away from office politics though, cause even walls have ears and you might draw some flak,and that's something you didnt bargain for).

And if you dont find somebody like that and the afore mentioned 2 tips are also not possible because you have your boss looking over your shoulder or snoopy colleagues who are waiting for a chance to ridicule your importance because of your joblessness then God help you, just like I am hoping he will help me today!!

Saturday, August 25, 2007

Waste of time!

I saw the movie ‘Hey baby’ last nite. Such a silly movie if there ever was one. But since I haven’t watched much of this slapstick comedy especially in Hindi, I am sure there have been worse ones. I thought that “Bhagam Bhag” was the biggest disaster I have seen in recent times. But ‘Hey baby’ makes even that movie look like an Oscar Winning product.

It has an ageing Akshay Kumar playing a Casanova!! Please it’s a little difficult to believe that all women fall for this guy, just like that without any rhyme or reason. Fardeen and Ritesh are his buddies. All 3 are basically jobless (Akshay gets fired from his job as a discotheque manager, Fardeen is supposed to be a bookie, And Ritesh a guy who dresses like a mascot at parties). But these jobless guys stay in a pretty good apartment. Really wonder if it is possible to get such apartments for jobless folks in Australia!! And all three keep chasing women, until one fine day a baby is abandoned outside their door. What follows after that is complete mayhem which is sometimes funny, but mostly dragging.

It is already a remake of an English film titled "3 men and a baby." But alas this one fails to live up to even being a good copy of the original. Wish I had spent the money wasted on the ticket(25 AED (275 Indian Rupees)in Sharjah) on buying a decent book and sitting at home. Anyway this flick ought to come out on TV in a couple of months.

Poetic Resignation

Now the below forward I got last week is what I call true Creativity!!. And this reflects the mindset of most people in almost all great Software Companies!Maybe I shall write a review of this poem in my next blog, what say!!

The name is good, the brand is big
But the work I do is that of a pig
The work or the brand; what is my way?
I don't know if I should stay.
To work, they have set their own way
Nobody will care to hear what I say
My will be NULL, they wont change their way
I don't know if I should stay.
The project is in a critical stage
But to do good work, this is the age
This dilemma is killing me day by day
I don't know if I should stay.
The money is good, the place is great
But the development is at a very small rate
Should I go for the work, or wait for pay
I don't know if I should stay!
The managers don't know what they talk
The team doesn't know where they walk
That's a bad situation, what say?
I don't know if I should stay.
I can go to any other place
But what if I get the same disgrace
I can't keep switching day by day I don't know if I should stay.
The -ves are more, the +ves are less
Then why have this unnecessary mess
No more will I walk their way, It's all done, I won't stay.
Thanks & Regards Employee


This is another one among the countless forwards I have got ever since I became a software programmer, but who knows when some people are bored with work, maybe they will read this. Some things mentioned here really are quite useful.


1. No Breakfast
People who do not take breakfast are going to have a lower blood sugar level.
This leads to an insufficient supply of nutrients to the brain causing
brain degeneration.
2. Overeating
It causes hardening of the brain arteries, leading to a decrease in
mental power.
3. Smoking
It causes multiple brain shrinkage and may lead to Alzheimer disease.
4. High Sugar consumption
Too much sugar will interrupt the absorption of proteins and nutrients
causingmalnutrition and may interfere with brain development.
5. Air Pollution
The brain is the largest oxygen consumer in our body. Inhaling
polluted air decreases the supply of oxygen to the brain, bringing
about a decrease in brain efficiency.
6. Sleep Deprivation
Sleep allows our brain to rest. Long term deprivation from sleep will
accelerate the death of brain cells.
7. Head covered while sleeping
Sleeping with the head covered, increases the concentration of carbon
dioxide and decrease concentration of oxygen that may lead to brain
damaging effects.
8. Working your brain during illness
Working hard or studying with sickness may lead to a decrease in
effectiveness of the brain as well as damage the brain.
9. Lacking in stimulating thoughts
Thinking is the best way to train our brain, lacking in brain
stimulation thoughts may cause brain shrinkage.
10. Talking Rarely
Intellectual conversations will promote the efficiency of the brain
The main causes of liver damage are:
1. Sleeping too late and waking up too late are main cause.
2. Not urinating in the morning.
3. Too much eating.
4. Skipping breakfast.
5. Consuming too much medication.
6. Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring , and
artificial sweetener.
7. Consuming unhealthy cooking oil. As much as possible reduce cooking
oil use when frying, which includes even the best cooking oils like
olive oil. Do not consume fried foods when you are tired, except if
the body is very fit.
8. Consuming raw (overly done) foods also add to the burden of liver.
Veggies should be eaten raw or cooked 3-5 parts. Fried veggies should
be finished in one sitting, do not store.
We should prevent this without necessarily spending more. We just have
to adopt a good daily lifestyle and eating habits. Maintaining good
eating habits and time condition are very important for our bodies to
absorb and get rid of unnecessary chemicals according to "schedule."

Because :
Evening at 9 - 11 PM : is the time for eliminating unnecessary/toxic
chemicals (detoxification) from the antibody system (lymph nodes).
This time duration should be spent by relaxing or listening to music.
If during this time a housewife is still in an unrelaxed state such as
washing the dishes or monitoring children doing their homework, this
will have a negative impact on health.
Evening at 11pm - 1 am : is the detoxification process in the liver,
and ideally should be done in a deep sleep state.
Early morning 1 - 3 am : detoxification process in the gall, also
ideally done in a deep sleep state.
Early morning 3 - 5 am : detoxification in the lungs. Therefore there
will sometimes be a severe cough for cough sufferers during this time.
Since the detoxification process had reached the respiratory tract,
there is no need to take cough medicine so as not to interfere with
toxin removal process.
Morning 5 - 7am : detoxification in the colon, you should empty your bowel.
Morning 7 - 9 am : absorption of nutrients in the small intestine, you
should be having breakfast at this time.Breakfast should be earlier,
before 6:30 am , for those who are sick. Breakfast before 7:30 am is
very beneficial to those wanting to stay fit. Those who always skip
breakfast, they should change their habits, and it is still better to
eat breakfast late until 9 - 10 am rather than no meal at all.
Sleeping so late and waking up too late will disrupt the process of
removing unnecessary chemicals. Aside from that, midnight to 4:00 am
is the time when the bone marrow produces blood. Therefore, have a
good sleep and don't sleep late.

AND PASS THIS TO ALL WHOM YOU CARE FOR .....................

About Creative Writing- 1

Creative Writing is an art by itself. In the past I have had the opportunities to participate in quite a few creative writing competitions both in school and college. I have never won any competitions, but the satisfaction of participating in it, as well as comparing yourself with the Winners, gave me a good idea of where I was going wrong.

Time passed and as life dragged on , I forgot what it was to write creatively such that you grab the readers attention and sustain it for a longer period of time.

Now I have decided to write atleast something from my own perspective on things around me.The ability to find a good subject that sustains readers interest is eluding me now. So I have decided to write on everything that I find interesting for now.

I read this in an essay emailed to me long ago, I couldnt have agreed more with the author on this aspect:"While perceiving the theme is important for any form of writing, the ability to pen down the thoughts with excellent written communication skills is of equal importance. The secret to mastering this art is no overnight affair but requires tremendous toiling - which would include voracious reading and continuous writing habits. The more you read - and whatever you read from any discipline of study enlarges your imagination from a wider spectrum."

I read a lot of books, so I have decided that I shall start my creative writing sessions by writing my own reviews for all favourite books(that is quite a large number). This should keep me occupied for some time!!

Sunday, June 3, 2007

My First Blog

Atlast I am making my first step into the world of bloggers. To start with I shall give a brief description about me. I am among those confused souls in life who basically went into IT because everybody around me thought it was the best thing to do and have regretted it ever since.

Given a choice , I would have become an English schoolteacher. But of course the remuneration for such a profession would have been 1/3rd of my current salary. That, and the fact that these days people only talk about their ever-increasing salaries in the IT profession and onsite opportunities have forced me to stick to this profession though I really hate it.

I am a java programmer(Now , now I know there are tens of thousands of Java programmers in this world). But I happen to be among them even though I dont like it.I am a voracious reader, and I started reading novels since the age of 7. I do dream of being a good writer some day. But for the time being I have put that hope on the back burner.

Apart from reading I love listening to music. All type of music that too! My kind of ideal life would be to curl up on the sofa listening to music and reading the books I love all the time. But since they dont pay for doing this I have to do some Java programming daily in order to sustain myself in this world.

I am basically a lazy person, too lazy for my own liking.I take things easily and this has led me in to many troubles from time to time. I am not a very ambitious person. I used to be. But these days I have just given up hope, as nothing works the way I want it to.

I dont have too many friends, why ? well I dont have a correct answer for that. Not that I dont like socialising. But from my childhood my parents have taught me to be weary of friends , so as a result I dont really trust anybody quickly. And thus I maintain my distance from people even if they really mean well.

Why did I name this blog as return-2-innocence? Well I first heard or rather saw the video of the song Return to innocence by Enigma on MTV, and somehow the theme, and the title of this song brought many connotations to my mind. Why not go back to those good old days where life was rid of all this violence and strife that people face on a daily basis?

I have only one recurring dream. Of returning to my childhood home in Chennai, Tamilnadu , India and suddenly all those people I was close to in my childhood are present there in order to welcome me.Like all my other dreams I know that this also wont happen, but heck whats wrong in dreaming??