Friday, September 28, 2007

Friends - Another good forward!

  • In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.
  • In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls.
  • In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.
  • In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus.
  • In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nick or Smelly Susan.
  • In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.
  • In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed.
  • In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had.
  • In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.
  • In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.
  • In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.
  • In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.
  • In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get into that college/university, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go...
  • At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.
  • The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for university and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.
  • Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!

Good Movies in the past.

One of the best blogs I have seen in recent times is this: from nariyal chutney on Malayalam films of the nineties. Please do take time off to ponder on this topic. It does make for good reading and pondering. Mr.Nariyal Chutney hats off to you for such a good blog. And hope you continue to write more like this.

Tuesday, September 4, 2007

For One More Day - Mitch Albom - A must read.

"Mitch Albom mesmerized readers around the world with his number one New York Times bestsellers, The Five People You Meet in Heaven and Tuesdays with Morrie. Now he returns with a beautiful, haunting novel about the family we love and the chances we miss.
For One More Day is the story of a mother and a son, and a relationship that covers a lifetime and beyond. It explores the question: What would you do if you could spend one more day with a lost loved one?

As a child, Charley “Chick” Benetto was told by his father, “You can be a mama’s boy or a daddy’s boy, but you can’t be both.” So he chooses his father, only to see the man disappear when Charley is on the verge of adolescence.

Decades later, Charley is a broken man. His life has been crumbled by alcohol and regret. He loses his job. He leaves his family. He hits bottom after discovering his only daughter has shut him out of her wedding. And he decides to take his own life.

He makes a midnight ride to his small hometown, with plans to do himself in. But upon failing even to do that, he staggers back to his old house, only to make an astonishing discovery. His mother -- who died eight years earlier -- is still living there, and welcomes him home as if nothing ever happened."

I am sure the above paragraphs could get a person interested enough and compel him/her to read this book. And that's precisely what I did when I saw this book with a friend of mine. I could hardly wait till she finished reading and passed on the book to me. And true to what was written on the cover the story was engrossing enough, that I found it difficult to put it down.
I have often felt what it would be like to go back to your past and modify it.Of course it is impossible, but what if we got a magic wand that could help us do it. A la Harry Potter! He was able to view a day in his life when his parents were still alive.(I am sorry if folks reading this do not know of Harry Potter!).But ya how would it be? Like Robert Frost says:-

"Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. "

I often wonder , what if I had taken the other road(made another choice). This book makes you reminisicice , look back with its subtle nuances. Most people can identify with this author.

But of course,if you are not a person who reads such sentimental stuff, better give it a miss. This is only meant for those who like to look back on life every once in a while.

Heights of Joblessness

As usual I have reached office by 8.00 a.m. Again I don't have any work to do. How on earth should I while away time till 4.00 p.m.? When you sit for 3 whole days in a row with nothing particular to do, you only get negative thoughts in your head. There is a saying; an idle mind is a devil's workshop. I am determined not to make my mind a devil's workshop so I have decided to do what I know best to do, i.e., write! In a way it's good that they have invented the concept of blogs. You can take out your anger on nobody in particular without the risk of creating a fracas. So this time I am writing 3 best tips on how to while away time when you are idle, without doing something malicious like gossiping.

First of all, (this part applies to all those who have internet connection in their office) browse through all the newspaper websites. Since I am Indian and residing in the gulf, I go through the following sites: and . You can spend about half an hour reading each of these. Next there is . Here you get all kinds of articles ranging from stupid questions to really knowledgeable articles on any topic under the sun. Another option is to try and find some good blog sites. You will surprised to know there are quite a lot of people in this world who are just as jobless as you are , and some of them are quite creative and write pretty well. And the best part is you can remain anonymous when you go through their sites or when you reply to them.

If you do not have an internet connection, now this is a really sorry situation. What you can do best in such situations, save all the forwarded messages that you can get from friends (most people get a lot of them these days) from time to time. When you are idle read them all! This would be a good time for introspection, and some factors of your life could improve who knows! Another way is to get some downloaded e-books (pdfs) and read them. Surely somebody who has the internet connection can download and give them to you.

Last but not the least, try to find somebody as idle as you are and go for a break. There is nothing quite like an intellectual conversation especially when you are down in the dumps and you feel that you are totally useless. You might learn something from these conversations. It could be anything starting from your work to diverse cultural backgrounds to sports and politics (stay away from office politics though, cause even walls have ears and you might draw some flak,and that's something you didnt bargain for).

And if you dont find somebody like that and the afore mentioned 2 tips are also not possible because you have your boss looking over your shoulder or snoopy colleagues who are waiting for a chance to ridicule your importance because of your joblessness then God help you, just like I am hoping he will help me today!!